Matteo

56 years, Male | Ontario

“In silence, I endured self-harm and escalating suicidal ideation, unaware that seeking professional help could offer relief. Reflecting now, I realize I should have sought assistance sooner, but at the time, the thought didn't occur to me.”

With years of experience in HR, I became the go-to "workplace therapist" for my colleagues, aiding them in accessing mental health support when needed. However, when faced with my own mental health struggles a few years ago, I found it challenging to seek help. Feelings of shame and embarrassment led me to believe I should handle it independently, despite grappling with suicidal thoughts and a loss of hope for life.

In silence, I endured self-harm and escalating suicidal ideation, unaware that seeking professional help could offer relief. Reflecting now, I realize I should have sought assistance sooner, but at the time, the thought didn't occur to me.

A chance encounter with a colleague who runs a mental health organization changed everything. During our conversation, I opened up about my feelings, and my colleague provided much-needed reassurance. Recognizing the severity of my situation, the colleague promptly connected me with a mental health professional. This professional not only guided me through my personal struggles but also arranged practical support, including sending a nurse and the police to my apartment when my safety was at risk. She also outlined resources for me to access during dark moments.

Though I am feeling better and more optimistic about the future, thoughts of suicide still linger occasionally, reminding me of my ongoing journey. Yet, I feel resilient after enduring what I describe as a "year of hell." Recognizing the importance of immediate help, I keep suicide and crisis hotline numbers on my fridge, having utilized them in times of need over the past year. I acknowledge my fortune in encountering the right person at the right time and wonder where I would be without that pivotal conversation.

Disclaimer: All names featured throughout this report have been changed to protect the identity of participants. These individuals were selected at random from a group of individuals that recently completed an online blind survey about mental health, and self-identified as having a mental health diagnosis. Participants were compensated financially for sharing their stories, with a commitment from MHRC to privacy and anonymity.

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